Need advice

[TimR]

CRW I am assuming your conversations you had via text were filled with validation. Here is what I have learned with my experiences with my WW. Take this with a grain of salt cause I may be the worst DBer in the history of DBing. You are being kind and validating, doing great with 180s. That confuses your WW and she doesn't like it. What she wants is reactions, what she wants is to pull you into a fight so she can tell herself, "see this is why what I did is not so bad and this why I need to get rid of him." She wants you to fight with her to provide reason what she is doing is the right thing. Otherwise, god forbid, she may feel some guilt. Read through my thread, as soon as I started validating, she turned script and started attacking me. She would become demeaning and when I set boundaries and stuck with them, it drove her nuts! She would attack and attack. sometimes I would get pulled in, but I often did well with staying out of it and then venting here. Stick with your course as long as you are able! Whether you get her back or not you will be a better person and it will better your future relationships.