Who am I and what do I want?

[JGuy]

Hey folks, I did it. I jumped off the cliff, and to my surprise, I was able to fly!

I won't go into much detail, but long story short is that my STBXW and I have both come onto the same page about not being a good match for each other. There is a lot of love between us as we happily let each other go. There is some excitement about the future. We are proceeding to take the steps toward D with a mediator and without a vicious fight. It is wonderful and I could not have hoped for more. Our son is doing great, is showing no signs of distress. We are planning to do things gradually so as to not make the changes too sudden for him.

We have both given each other our blessings to go and be with whoever makes our heart most happy. For me, it is starting to bloom with the OW who I first met in the dream. For my STBXW, it is happening with the OM with whom she started the EA. We are all choosing to be loving and let go of what wasn't working in order to make room for something new and way more awesome. Since I don't want the complications of a rebound R, I am taking it very slow with the OW. The foundation of our R is a deeply spiritual friendship. We both have a sense that there is no hurry, that we have forever together. We both feel like we have found our soul mate, and we want to start it out with a really strong friendship, so we are focusing on building that for now.

Last night, the OW came over to visit me for the evening and my STBXW was here. We were all together and we laughed about the awkwardness. The two of them hugged, cried, and had a long conversation. I was stunned and could not believe how much love I was witnessing. I hugged them both and we all laughed, in awe at just how much grace we were bearing witness to. My STBXW headed off to work and the OW and I had a nice evening. My son loves her too! I am truly blessed. Life can sometimes throw miraculous curve balls.

In the end I am glad that I took these 6 months to try my best to save the M. I can look back knowing that I put in my best effort. I did not burn any bridges and I kept things respectful and loving. It has paid off big time!

Thanks to everyone who offered their advice on my threads. I have learned a lot from the folks here, and even when it didn't fit for me, I appreciate that it was given with good intentions.