That's hard Nate. We'd all love it if our S's would look like crap as we go through all this. We want to see them suffering as much as we are. Regardless, try and keep your focus on you and what you are doing. You need to get to a place where it doesn't matter to you what she looks like, says or does.
Me: 48 y/o W: 47 y/o Together: > 20 yrs BD: Dec '15, then S 2nd BD: Mar '16, then I filed for D April '16: started piecing