Feeling a bit down again today. just starting to feel as if W is slipping away I feel we were closer when she first moved out and as time goes on shes happy with her decision to go.
I'm great at telling myself that I'm good and detaching and what she does will have no effect on me..... Yeah right. Although the one thing I can say is I think I am getting very good at not showing the way I actually feel when she says things that hurt me.
I really don't know where this is going or if DB is the right process for me to follow. I'm dealing with a WAW that is not in any affair, says she LYBNILWY and moved out the next morning it all happened that fast. When we speak which is most days we are both happy and polite as if she never left.
My sitch just has a different feel from all I have read I think the major factor in her leaving is Her age. She is 24 we have had a tough time the last 2 years our daughter is almost 2 and I think she's having a mid 20's crisis. Like life is getting too serious I want to have fun type of thing. I can't help but feel this will wear off and she will snap out but I'm telling myself she won't and trying to move on with life as if she's not coming back to protect myself.
I really just don't know if trying to have less contact in this situation is the way to go? I found this site the day she left, we have had no talk about or M or R since the morning she left. I asked her if we could try counseling her reply was "if we both want to in a couple of months we can" I think this was just guilt talking don't think she meant it. But I have not spoken about or M as per following DB.
I don't initiate any contact I haven't since she left but she seems to always contact me most days if not everyday very close to it. Should I not be believing anything she says in this situation?
All opinions welcome I'll take any advice. Thanks
ME- 31 W-25 T-5 M-3 D2 ILYBNILWY and moved out - FEB16 W seeing someone else - JUL16
