Sandi, in the selfish mindset, do they know they are playing games, temp checking etc or is it just their thoughts at the time. Like my email were you said she is pulling the guilt card. Now many times over the years my wife has given me the line 'I need to get to know you again', she just says it her expressing her feelings but I've always seen it as a guilt trip and trying to get me to prove myself over again. In he ealrier days I didn't think about it but now I see more and more little things like that. I know many times I put her first and that's probably one of the reasons I'm here now. I know women test men generally from time to time, how different is it when the mindset has become what we face now? I recognize many more things now than ever before but I know it's an ever changing landscape.
