Thanks for your post. Good for you on your notebook. I too have a list like that. I'm sure Sandi2, Cadet, MWD, etc would take issues with my list as many of them are things that I want to do and I hope will knock my W out of her detachment e.g. House repairs, activities I up to, things I do with the kids.
You are stronger than me - I would be a mess if I did not have daily contact with my W. My mind is my worst enemy.
Good luck
M:50 W:53 MR:20 D:21 S:17 S:11 BD-Sept 2015 Suspected PA Sept 2015-Confronted W & OM Dec 2015 Actually EA In house Sep:Jan/16-May 2016 W moved out:May 22 2016 OM-Intro Oct/17-On scene July/Aug 2017