Thanks for your post. I'm sorry to hear about your sitch. I wish I could offer some useful thoughts. It's nice to know that I'm not the only one who is confused by the goals section.
I too am confused by the detachment section too. I find it hard to be detached but still have my 'radar" on for changes in her attitude/behavior etc.
M:50 W:53 MR:20 D:21 S:17 S:11 BD-Sept 2015 Suspected PA Sept 2015-Confronted W & OM Dec 2015 Actually EA In house Sep:Jan/16-May 2016 W moved out:May 22 2016 OM-Intro Oct/17-On scene July/Aug 2017