Feeling lost

[srt]

Hi Sandi, I assume you mean that she is still "cake eating" unless she is saying she wants family things to happen, and SHE is actively instigating them.

She ended up coming to the event at the weekend, I thought I could handle it, but afterwards wished she hadn't. Any tips on a non-confrontational way to refuse these in future? I don't want her to be able to say I'm deliberately doing stuff to get back at her, but equally I want to start laying down some boundaries as I feel helpless in the situation.

This week will be interesting, D has birthday and I think a small party at W condo. I'm unsure if I want to go, I'd rather keep dropping contact with W as it just depresses me. However I still want to see D on her birthday and ensure she gets her presents. I might arrange a small party for her the next night at mine, still unsure about this. Any advice or tips from fellow DB'ers with young kids on how to approach this?