She is checked out of this R right now. She is not interested. You are in a very different head space than her.

When you pursue her in anyway, that pushes her away. When you are nice to her, she thinks you are spineless, and that pushes her away. When you apologize, that annoys her. She doesn't want anything from you right now but space and time. She is going to lose respect for you if she knows she cane be cold/distant and you are right there being nice and apologizing.

Get too busy to worry about her or how she is doing! Take all focus off of her. Only contact her if it is something that needs addressing immediately, otherwise let her come to you with it. When you do communicate with her, be polite, but stick to the point, then exit the conversation ASAP.

Every morning when you wake up, reread Sandi's rules. Your conversation is not DB at all.

You can do this. It is going to take a LONG TIME though. You cannot measure results day by day or even week by week.

-Blu

“Forgiveness liberates the soul. It removes fear. That is why it is such a powerful weapon.” – Nelson Mandela