So now she seems downright angry. this is so confusing:

Me: no worries. travel safe! send me a pic of the littles if you have a chance
Me: Babies down?
W: What time is it?
Me: 8:26
W: You just answered your own question.
Me: Ha, ok, fair enough. Give them kisses for me in the morning. Miss them a ton
Me: Hope you are having a good night
W: There is no reason you should be texting me at 830 asking if they are asleep. Their bedtime is 8, no exceptions.
W: And stop texting me to have a good day and a good night.
Me: Ok, I apologize.
Me: Just missing the kids
W: If you miss them, then text prior to 7pm. Not hard to figure out.
Me: Ok, fair enough. Thank you for the direction

She is downright mad at me. I'm not sure why?

Me: 38 y/o
W: 38 y/o
Together: 10 yrs
Married: 7 yrs
S1, D3, S15(hers previous, I adopted May'15)
WBD: Sep '15
W's EA confirmed Oct'15
W Filed Dec '15
Personal awakening Mar'16