Wife wants to separate at end of school year # 2

[Bhuda1]

Thank you all for the support and advice. It is so much appreciated.

I am halfway through the ... book. A total eye opener. Some of the "Breaking Free" activities suggest discussion with my significant other. This poses a problem.

Would I be taking steps backward if I acknowledge to my wife that I am reading the ... book. I have even had thoughts of asking her to read the book.

I am nice and need to break free from being that. So much so that I realize I even get annoyed when I mention a scenario involving my sitch and someone disagrees with my actions. It is all part of looking for appreciation and accolades.

That has been me. I always have done things hoping to get some sort of positive response in return. The main one is telling my Wife I love her just to hear it back. This has been my life. Doing things to feel appreciated, liked and accepted. From my wife to my children, my friends and business colleagues. I have always been concerned with having people like me based on my actions not for who I am. This realization has been a slap in the face and a wake up call. I will no longer look for approval. I will do things for me. Live my life without seeking or expecting accolades.

Please let me know if it goes against DBing if I let my wife know about the ... book or even suggest that she read it.

I also want to note that realizing that because I have been nice as defined in the book, I am not justifying my poor choices and actions of the past. It has just given me a better insight into why I made the choices I did. Knowing now Who I really am and who I want to be, can only work in my favour as a true DB'er.