I agree with your thoughts. I wanted to share with bigybiz something to that effect, but was unable to formulate the thought. Your post expresses it it perfectly IMHO.
Bigybiz, I think keeping the goals small, focused on your behavior with just a hint of what the relationship would move towards will be the best way to set the goals.
I love that you are setting goals, and will follow you, as I am at a point that I will be setting my own and ideas and feedback will benefit.
Thank you for sharing and seeking advice here.
Me 46 Former W 46 D19 D7 BD Feb 2016 WAW moves out 4/16/16 D final 6/1/2017
It's time for me to start changin' the way I look at the world......and at myself. ~James Howlett aka Wolverine
