Rose, I don't know if you have anybody to "spill" on, but you'll need somebody. I try not to say anything except here as far as specifics - but still need to lean on a couple of good friends I've had for 40+ years.
You're blessed to have your kids, they're going to help you focus away so much. Enjoy church - and a walk in nature is one of the best things you can do. Anything you can do to connect with the earth will recharge your batteries in a big way.
I'm glad your H got somebody to edit for him. He's going to have to learn what it's like without you. Have a great day.
I came to the same decision about needing someone to talk to, so I told a good friend on Friday. Unfortunately, she lives many states away, but she'll be a good sounding board. She and her husband are our closest friends. We met them very early in our marriage. She was the only person I could think of who wouldn't think badly of me or H or make H feel like we couldn't reconcile.
Me: 44 H: 44 Kids: 20, 16, 16, and 10 Together/Married: 22 years H announced he was emotionally detached and considering D: 4/4/16 H announced he is going to try to stay and reconnect: 5/1/16
