V! I am practically speechless! I have always loved reading your posts, and now you have given me so much to think about. I cannot thank you enough.
Today is a very busy day for me, but I will come back to this and read it again and again. And then I will read it again down the road. Again. This is a huge eye opener for me. ... I knew I came back here for a reason.
Thank you! -Blu
Blu there are three things really that I would say to lurkers (and I lurked for 5 months or so before signing up) reading and lurking will help generally as obviously reading the books DR and DB (essential). It won't help with your own sitch. The second thing is posting for self and to others is grounding and the route to detachment and healing. There is very little else that will do the work other than doing the work.
The very last thing is that just because your spouse wants out of the M and is having an A to transition out of their M doesn't mean they are in MLC, it means they want out of their M and can be immature within the context of M, unsuitable for M. They want to walk away and are in an interim A to get the support to do so. Others like my XWH behave abusively and have MLC, like having malaria and a broken leg. Being addictive and or abusive is the most damaging of all to an M, personality failures indicate that we should run not walk. Seeking MLC as a reason for failure canot hold back posters and the only way to know is to post and receive feedback.
There is nothing like your tribe to help you on your journey, and that won't build until you post for self and others. It is accepting that you need help with your sitch and an important first step to shift.
So Blu, congratulations on the first steps to rebuilding you.
V
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
