That is the one mistake I made, LiM. If I had done what you did and concurred with my WW's threat to leave the house the NIGHT of my discovery of her EA, I would have been so much further ahead. For one, she would've gone to my MIL and the whole direction of the would have changed significantly. Even if she ended up filing for D still, the timeline probably would have been stretched out a lot longer. Also, I could have claimed abandonment in requesting full custody. Ah, hindsight is always 20/20... Instead, I begged and groveled for her to stay, and then when she actually filed the D, she stayed on for 2 more months while our L's haggled over the Separation Agreement. The two months were wasted as I tried to apply the strategy from another forum and tried to "nice" her back into working on the M. I'm pretty sure it didn't work and was probably counterproductive because we were at close range while the L's battles became more and more vicious and petty. What really $ucked was I gave her $5K to move out before she filed, her L told her not to in order to extract more out of me. That was a bad move. It didn't expedite her move one bit, which probably would have helped our relationship.
Me-LBH, 48 Spouse-WW, 48 Married for 19 years Son, 12 BD #1 - November 1998 (EA 7 months after wedding) BD #2 - November 2015 (same XBF EA) WW filed D February 2016 WW moved out April 2016
