OTW. How are things going. Reading your situations seems very much like mine. Yet everyone situations seems familiar in one way or another. I don't recall, but did your wife ever say she wanted a divorce, if so has it been brought up lately.
Me-LBH, 44 Spouse-WAW, 41 Married for 9 years S, 7 S, 5 BD - November 20th 2015