GAL going well. Need help with LRT and 180

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Sandi2:

I reread the DR section on setting goals. I may be reading it wrong. It seems that one of the themes of the section is "what are small signs your relationship is moving in the right direction" Are those not the goals I should be setting?

I think I've been meeting my own personal development goals.

My exercise is off the chart, Work is going good, I'm decluttering the house, 'm trying to be out once during the week and once on the weekend, I'm killing it on the house projects (she finally broke her silence and noticed) I'm spending lots of time with each of the kids and as a collective. I'm doing a few things that are different for me. I bought a new "modern" suit, buying a (used) motorcycle - I'll have it next month, Next week I'm going to do something crazy/new to my hair.

I've been dealing with her differently too:

When I speak to her I look her square in the eye

I cut convos short

I don't talk to her if she is being testy, etc.

I don't ask her permission for anything - e.g. I'm doing this any issues?

My ultimate goal - sorry I stole this from another post is:

To be such an attractive man that no woman would want to leave me.

So what are reasonable goals that can move my relationship from In house Sep to a loving marriage?