Blu, if I may, what was the "temp checking" that your H was doing right before he came back? I am curious about how guilt played a big part in your H's emotional state.

My H has sent a couple very guilty texts (Do you hate me?, etc.), then silence for a week, now a missed phone call (while I was in class), which when I called him back it went straight to VM.

Others have said it is just guilt and doesn't mean anything, but how is this different from a "temp check"?

Appreciate you being so helpful to everyone, your posts have been very welcome and a true eye opener for us!


Me:33 H:34
T: 3yrs M: 2yrs
H depression triggered and we are "unhealthy": 7/15
H wants to "make it work" 12/28
BD: 3/10/16