Broken, not defeated pt2

[Cherry]

Needed to start a new thread.

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2668239#Post2668239

Sure you all know the backstory by now. H had affair, I db'ed he came back. And then we find ourselves here again. With him completely ignoring me, not looking talking nothing.

So I'm on vacay in Paris. Little tough going but trying to relax and enjoy. Decided I would go dark on him for a few days, or at least not initiate any convos. Baby is with mil so I'm in constant contact and know he's ok. After being ignored when I was leaving. I got a text off h last night his time, early hours here apologising for ignoring me and that he hopes I have a great time.

I kept my response a little vague back, thanks. Means a lot. That kinda thing.

[roist]

You took that goodbye way too personally. Yes it wasn't nice to be on the receiving end, but IMO this was not about you. Your H has his own issues and is obviously havingpproblems in his interactions.Try to look at it as him not being capable rather than him consciously directing his crap at you.

He now has apologised. I hope you can put it out of your mind and enjoy the beauty of Paris.

Best wishes

[JksD]

Cherry, maybe your h is also thinking about your trip to paris with him. And he may also be working out a lot of confusion on his part.

Good that you're still dbing and keeping positive. He needs to work out the kinks on his own.

[SH_]

Hi Cherry,

Just popping in to send some support and hugs.
((((Cherry))))

Enjoy your trip to the fullest as you deserve it and need it. I'll have to get some pointers from you about traveling to Paris as that is at the top of my D17 bucket list. I want to help her so that she can do it it in the near future.

Keep your chin up, a smile on your face and some pep in your step, and then you will only feel better and enjoy the time you have for yourself.

[Vanilla]

Cherry

WH behaviour was very poor indeed, accept the apology although it means nothing unless the behaviour changes.

Validate and move on.

Have so much fun and revitalisation

V

[GWH]

Cherry,

Agree with V here. Hope your having a good day today.

[Phoebe]

I just wanted to let you know I'm thinking of you and wishing you a lovely vacation. Hope you're making some good memories in Paris and getting bit of a mental break from the M thing.

(((Cherry)))

[Cherry]

Thanks all. I've been having the best time! I feel really refreshed. I haven't heard from h. Though I haven't contacted neither. Had a great time relaxing and shopping. And not that it matters too much, but had a lot of attention from the men which is a great ego boost.

Every now and again I get that horrible feeling and I miss him like crazy. And I feel like telling him how much I love and miss him. But then I remember that this is just how I am feeling. Doesn't mean that he wants to hear it

[Vanilla]

Detach

Fun is all around you, GAL like GAL is going out of fashion.

V

[JksD]

Cherry, glad to hear that you're having fun!