Do you think that exposing this to OM2 and letting him know she is still M and has 5 boys will do anything? I know where he works also, not sure if OM2 is married.
W states that OM2 knows. Really? Are there that many guys out there that would go out with a woman that is going through a D?
I don't think OM2 cares if your wife is married and has 5 kids. He's likely enjoying her attention and sex, not thinking about the future or long term.
Who knows what exactly your W told him. Probably something to the effect of, "our marriage has been over for years, I finally filed divorce papers." and anything she can say that paints you to look like a bad husband -- always at work, busy with xyz, whatever.
At this point, you're on the path to divorce, I don't think exposing anything will change anything. Focus on yourself and not on her.
