6. 6 months before BD he was putting a lot of pressure for me to return to work full time. He was really nasty about it. Told me to "figure it out. Other people do it" when it was logistically disadvantageous. past year he was telling me if we were to reconcile I would have to work full time.
7. He lived with my parents for a year and had potential to save a lot of money. He says he did not. He refused to move out in apt to work on our marriage (we could have afforded it) unless I went back to work full time. lawyer thinks he had this planned for a while. I don't necessarily think that's true, but I think he was really with one foot out the door and had to have thought about the legal advantage.
I've had the same pressure. And a lot of anger over me not having a good job for year. I actually said straight out in counseling that I suspected that H wanted me to get a job so he could divorce me and pay less alimony. He acted surprised and the counselor had not seen that angle at all.
But I also pointed out that it was never a problem until OW was in the picture.
Do you suspect an A?
M 16 yrs, WH62, P54 3 adult blended kids EA 11/13, BD1 6/14 PA fall 14, BD2 2/15 Piecing 2015, BD3 12/15 Separated 4/16 WH moved OW in 5/16 Divorced 6/15/17
