Ciluzen, you sound like you are doing great! I am so glad that you are feeling like you are moving on and will be ok. And you will be, with him or without him. They do us a favor if they never come back because we (our strong, confident self, remember her?) does not need or want a man that can treat us this way!
What I like about this site is we can read threads of people at different stages and find some hope in each other. Phoebe, you say you have no hope, but do you see that Cil is several months ahead of you and is starting to feel better? We all have a different path, but that path only moves forward. On that path we cannot control H, but we CAN control how much we allow others to hurt us and bring us down.
Keep breathing, keep moving, keep grieving, and it will only get easier in time. And while I have come out on the other side, I still need to continue to move forward and find strength in myself. H cannot do that and I never should have expected him to.
Codependent no more, Blu
“Forgiveness liberates the soul. It removes fear. That is why it is such a powerful weapon.” – Nelson Mandela
