Husband has brought it up on a couple of occasions that he is going to have to leave the state and that he might be looking for job in a different state. He says that he wont be able to afford it here (very true, even when we were together this was something we were going to do)
He could be saying this so that I will ask for less. He could really want to leave and this will be his way of justifying his leaving son in his own mind and to his friends and family. By making it out like I am a money grubbing wife that is exploiting the system. (it has not left my mind that he did extend a supposed business trip out west to valentines day weekend)
i know i could be speculating and catastrophising. But i dont want to look back later and say "of course. how stupid was I. It was all there. I was just too stupid to see "
I need to look at this as strictly business (I am not a business person)without letting my emotions get in the way. I have absolutely no hope of reconciliation at this point so thats not the issue. When i reread the child support stuff, i dont really want to reconcile with someone capable of that. I realize that my perception can be off and biased but i dont think so regarding that.
How have others mentally went through the process?
