Ralph, I haven't read your prior thread, but I just wanted to chime in. I agree with what Lim is saying.
Often times the LBS is feeling weak and vulnerable and so they are not sure how to "act." They start trying to act in a way that may win their spouse back. That is the opposite of detachment.
That is why I think you absolutely invest in yourself and your relationship with others, specifically the kids. It's not about ignoring W, playing games, or proving a point. It is about being the best man and dad you can be and investing stock in your own future with or without her. You can continue to communicate with her about kids and logistics, but do not pursue her or talk about R.
You come out ahead if you can do this. Because as time goes on you will gain more self confidence, you will feel better, and you will be a better dad. If she still doesn't want you down the road, well then you really don't want her either--you deserve a woman that understands you and appreciates you.
Detach, be the best you can be, and be respectful of her, but allow your own space and time. You deserve that.
“Forgiveness liberates the soul. It removes fear. That is why it is such a powerful weapon.” – Nelson Mandela
