Wife had EA Oct 12, after discovery things improved for a couple of years, then slowly soured. I felt I couldn't trust her and she was being secretive and giving all signs of being in an A. ILLBINILWY Jan 15, this knocked me for six, no idea what to do or where to turn, didn't help I'd been withdrawing and not getting involved as much as I should have. W family v enmeshed/controlling and she had v little time for me. BD Aug 16, again shellshocked but with hindsight I should have seen it coming. W moved out with kids Sep 15. Currently I am getting IC, and we are both in MC, but W says she does not want to R. Getting scared of D and effect on D&S.
This appears to be a repeated behavior for both of you. Whatever method was applied in 2012 did not work for the long haul.
She seems determined to D you........oh, but wait.......she wants to continue the whole happy family routine. She needs a news flash that tells her divorced couples do not continue being best buds and doing things as a family. That's called a marriage, not a divorce.
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I should add to this that in the last "R" "chat" we had W was saying she had "messed up" and "[censored] everything and everyone up" regarding our M
So? Why do you think she wants to continue doing things like a family? Until her actions matches her words......do not believe anything has changed.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
