1 - Ironically, I spoke to her about love languages about 2 years ago, as we had a workshop at work, and I explained the type of love that I needed and she needed. Guess i'm going to have to re-school myself.
2 - i get love from her with her attention, and yes i feed it back to her. If she does not give me attention, then i take mine away too... viscious, but so un-subconscious.
3/4 - I have to go back to the basics, loving the simple things in life, the things that really count. The simple things, like watching you S blow-dry her hair whilst singing along to music, or siting in the lounge hearing her laugh whilst she watches a sitcom.
WE CAN WORK ON THE OTHER PERSPECTIVES OVER TIME...
AS FOR THE CHOICE THING... when she bought the ticket to go to the other city, i told her that she was making the wrong choice, but it was still her choice. It is controlling, but it's only because she has lost control of herself?
Okay, the attaching of the house is revenge, I get that. Can't take it back now though.
"But how do i show that I do not want revenge", and as i type the word REVENGE i answer the question myself - detach, GAL.
Here is a virtual hug darknes ((HUGS))
Just cos things are going right, doesn't mean that they were always wrong.
