Painter, wow - things have certainly gotten, er, interesting for you. I'm with Phoebe on this one. You're going to have to certainly tread carefully, but don't not say what you really feel if you think it's getting a little too close for comfort.
Getting weird messages out of the blue by one of your H's enabler F's doesn't help matters either. I'm so sorry - just what you need are extra reminders.
I can see what Zues means 1 month for every day married myself. There's no way I'm even slightly normalized after 3 months, and would think 2 years seems like a short time to consider anything as far as a R.
Keep focusing on the new aspects of your life, getting settled and your new work.
Me: 58 Her: 59 Kids: 0 Dog: 1 ILYBINILWY: 9/15 D Bomb: 1/11/16 (found out filed) Verified OM: 1/11/16 Moved out: 1/11/16 (thought it was temporary)