Hey tjcran,

Thanks for replying. I do over time feel that I am getting better at talking to people. I do have a long way to go though. It like little by little it gets easier.

I can do the hello thing now and once and a while I will add in a question, but I need to plan it, doesn't come natural. Then after the question, I do find it hard to continue the conversation. I do use the weather question a lot. Its always changing and an easy one to talk about.

I was thinking about co dependent and not needing anyone . I am attracted to my W for the fact that she can easily talk to people. I did have a best friend in high school for that same reason. They were able to fill in the gaps socially for me in different situations.

I can see I need to get to a point that I can handle it all myself. With W it was like, well your better talking on the phone than me you do that. I didn't see anything wrong with it at the time but now I see I relied too much on W and my friend to do social talking stuff that I should have been taking care of myself.


Me late 30's
W mid 30's
T 15, M 10
S4, S7
ILYBNILWY June 2015
In house S July 2015
W rings off Oct 2015
My ring off Feb 2015
Separate houses June 2016