Hawho-That IS one of the refresher sites I'm using! It has been great for filling in holes in my knowledge and understanding. I'm doing better than I thought I would with the recall, too.
I do feel there are quite a few childhood issues that he is (hopefully) dealing with. I know his family and there are some interesting issues. Not things most people outside of the "inner circle" would see. But things that have affected him and how he deals with his emotions and communication. I do think the path I am choosing right now is the right one, given his behavior and what I'm seeing in him.
I am just trying to focus on me and what I need, but I want to be available (not at his beck and call, but when on my own timeline) when he needs to talk...I think he is trying to work through some issues and by giving him an ear I think that helps.
I will admit I am plagued by a few things. One is his ladyfriend. He has started mentioning talking to her husband more ("we" own a house with them) and will bring up working with him on projects at the vacation home. He has stopped bringing up her name to me, something he often did before (ie, "Bubbles" said such and such or "Bubbles" was doing this and that). And the few communications I have received from her were from the "Smith" FAMILY (a birthday card, a "thinking of you" TM after H told his staff he had filed. I still have a fantasy of confronting her with how much time she spent with him and what I know about the weekend she spent time with him. I don't think she knows that I have knowledge of that.
The other thing is, I am exhausted. I'm trying to pack everything up to make our house less cluttered and cleaner for sale. I've been painting. It is a large house. I feel that I'm doing 95% of the work plus trying to create a future that is ALL changes (school, job, income, living arrangements, new friendships I HAVE to nurture) and he isn't really helping. The energy keeping that pity party at bay is tiring, as well.
Anyway, at least I can back off on the house stuff a bit after the photographer comes. Just venting a bit today.
M-51 H-54 2D-27 and 25 M-26 yrs Bombshell and IHS 7-29-15 He moved out 10-3-15 D filed 1-27-16 D final 10-27-16
