To lose hope must be one of the worst things that can happen to a person. To have something you desperately want - physical health, a loving relationship, a child, anything - dangled within reach and then grabbed away must be devastating. Awful. Especially when the very thing you longed for is then given freely to someone who does not deserve it. No wonder you are having so much trouble getting past this, G.
I agree with your IC, that people are meant to be part of a couple; I've told you before that I truly believe that our hearts have a love-shaped hole in them that cannot be filled by the love of our kids or friends. I really thought NG was that guy. He fooled a lot of people, G, not only you. His loss. His daughter's loss. But NOT your loss - you've had a very lucky escape.
I know it does not feel like that now, but someday it will. And someday you will find love, because you are such a loving deserving wonderful woman. Hang in there honey.
Linda
Me 65, Ex 64 M 38 y 2 adult S, 4 G-Kids MLC 11/07 BD 12/09 D 3/14 Dating nice guy 7/14 Engaged to nice guy 12/17