- I learned tonight that OW came to visit H in our home in 2014, when I was away. She supposedly loooooved the area (not very nice) and would looooove to live there. H told this to the person who told me. I'm sure OW could make an informed decision after a weekend! H has always denied that she was there, he just admitted to two trips he made to her. More lies!
- He supposedly has also been complaining about me and tried to get me to divorce him for years.
It hurts, but I would rather know than not.
Then - out of the blue, I was contacted by a friend (F) from back home tonight. He is visiting the city I'm in for business, leaving tomorrow. We're going to meet tomorrow and I'll take him to the airport. He is married and I know his wife and children well.
The wrinkle here is that F started hitting on me from when the problems first started with H (I ignored the attempts) until I cut off contact early last year. It started to feel like an EA with us comisserating about our spouses and I didn't like that. F and his W have been having problems for years, but even if I had been interested, I wouldn't have wanted to get in the middle of that mess!
I was completely open with H about F's advances (all verbal, teasing type) and told him that if he was uncomfortable with it, I'd drop the friendship. H said it was fine. But H later decided to pretend to believe that something happened between F and me - he admits in regular conversations that he knows it's not true, but he'd bring it up in upset situations. So I can just imagine what he would think if he finds out that F has been here!
It's been an interesting day. Also saw a counselor here today, but that was before any of this.
M 16 yrs, WH62, P54 3 adult blended kids EA 11/13, BD1 6/14 PA fall 14, BD2 2/15 Piecing 2015, BD3 12/15 Separated 4/16 WH moved OW in 5/16 Divorced 6/15/17
