Oh Mleigh - just caught up on what's going on with you. Wow, you have been standing for almost 3 years. Kudos to you. Funny, when I first joined I remember reading your BD date and thinking: "well, I know I won't be here THAT long." And yet the sand just keeps dropping to the bottom of that MLC hourglass.
Personally, I wonder if the constant contact hasn't made me forget my old h faster than I would if he were a vanisher. I am so used to this version of h that when I see glimpses of old h that is what surprises me now. Kind of sad.
You have not let anyone down. Don't be ridiculous! You are an inspiration to us. You have traveled this road with grace and dignity.
Me 41, H 47, M 15 yrs, S11, S13 BD 1: 11/4/14 we work on it; really I pretzel myself BD 2: 3/31/15 H goes down to "dorm room" 8/15: H back to MBR 10/15: H back in dorm room 1/18: H files, now divorced