I'm starting to look at my relationship in a different light. As I've talked with a trusted friend about what is going on I am saddened by many things that I am saying. As I talk about how things have gone in my marriage it isn't good. I've made many, many mistakes, but I'm also seeing how poorly I have been treated. I don't believe my W was intentionally trying to hurt me. In many cases she probably didn't know she was hurting me. None-the-less there has been lots of hurt. Will we be able to heal any of it?
I was talking to my W's sister today about a completely different topic. (Sister has no idea what is going on.) In the conversation she was talking about their upbringing and how the family dealt with conflict. It was quite revealing. Been married more than 10 years and none of this has ever been brought up before.
