Hi Excile, I think the answer is probably to do just as your W has suggested and seek out new company for yourself. Not a new woman, but new friends and interests that get you out and meeting new people. If you can get to a point where you have your own stuff going on (an d you genuinely enjoy it) it does make a big difference.

And who knows, if your W sees that you are having a good time...she may just start to wonder what she's missing. But please don't do it for that reason, do it for you and do it on the basis that you may (or may not) get the chance to rebuild your M - but you can absolutely rebuild your life.

Try to get to a point where you genuinely are doing things for yourself, not 'in relation to' your W or to try and restore your M. There's no need to close any doors, but if you can accept ploughing your own furrow for the next little while, that's the best way I think.

Take care smile

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