I read my last post and should clarify - I'm not off this site, I'm off on my own (moving out) to go work on myself because that's the only person I can work on.
A question for any WW out there. Do you always know what you are doing is wrong or hurtful? I ask becuase my W had an EA years ago. She has never apologized and we discussed it again recently and she says doesn't understand why it was a problem. Is it possible she is that out of touch or is she saying that as a coping mechanism.