@dream, she was definitely a bad MC, but we never really made it easier for her. I was really bad. I do think that an EA is bad, but i hope to never find out how a PA feels. She spoke this evening about going to counselling, as a step to improve herself. I'm still very detached. Well i'm trying to stop that type of contact, not alot of trying if i must say...
She's starting to become less selfish, asking me what i want. She's even serenading me with music. She's not attached to her phone anymore. But don't get me wrong, this is only 3 days in since i started detaching and i have a feeling that i will need to detach for many months before her and I will be able to continue as a married couple.
@darknes, I heed your warning (and appreciate it immensely, as with everyone else) and I take all advice that i can and make what i feel is an informed decision. Last week Thursday, she wanted to reconcile, but Sandi said that it's too early. I needed to place her deeper into the fog and i asked for a separation friday morning first thing. And dont you know it, she was TMing the OP. She came out a bit on Sunday and is slowly becoming less foggy.
I'm really biding time until I get the book and will implement all that i can. I believe that I have to test how deep in the fog she is, throw her back in if i have to. She asked me if i'm playing games, sometimes i'm hot, sometimes i'm cold. I said, unlike you, i'm not playing a game - this is my life.
Just cos things are going right, doesn't mean that they were always wrong.
