Wife files divorce after I confronted her 2nd EA

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CWOL,
this is really sounding like you need to look at the "as if". Treat your W as you would a neighbor across the street, or the checkout clerk. But nothing more.

I know when you're going to be seeing each other it's difficult, but would you be packing up strangers and taking them to lunch? Or just be courteous to them if you wind up having to communicate?

All I can put out there is what you've done isn't working. If you cannot DR, then you can't. But boy, if I were in your shoes I'd be giving it a heck of a try. It's one thing if there's difficulty between 2 spouses, but when an OP gets involved, things change dramatically. Either way, I wish to God I had found MWD 6-8 months ago. I looked, but I found the wrong sources. The ones that made sense. I can tell you - it didn't work.