Look, I was not telling you the steps to divorce her. I was telling you to drop her, as in dropping the rope. And yes, MWD does teach that when nothing else works, to drop it. What MWD has done, is come on this board to say she does not support exposure........so why GB wants to pull that card with what I've said.......when he fiercely advises what is contrary to MWD.

I did not read all of GB posts and I am not going to battle with him. What good would it do you, or anyone? For the record, I agree with a lot of things he usually says, but we do have a difference of beliefs in what works and doesn't work with wayward wives. Mainly, b/c he advises methods of pursuit, and I don't agree with those methods. However, I don't make it my mission to post behind him and try to tell people he's wrong, etc., etc.

You asked for me to look at your thread and help you, b/c your WW was taking full advantage of having the best of both worlds. I believe you said something about how to turn things around to your advantage. I tell you to start with dropping her, and stop letting her cake eat by taking her out to dinner and driving her to the games, etc. Then, you immediately say you can't.

Look, I was not telling you to divorce her. I was telling you to drop her, as in dropping the rope. And yes, MWD does teach that when nothing else works, to drop it. What she has done, is come on this board to say she does not encourage exposure........so why GB wants to pull that card with what I've said.......when he fiercely advises contrary to MWD, seems a little hypocritical, but whatever.

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In reality it is very difficult for me to "drop her." My S11's baseball games are public so she's going to invite herself to the game no matter what. We can sit far apart from each other (I've seen other divorced couples do that) but we cannot avoid seeing each other. Also the custody arrangement that we have is that she will take him to his practices on my days when they are early. (Little League always schedule 4pm team practices three times a week!)


I told you to stop acting as if the two of you were a couple. Of course his games are public and you can't help but see her there. That is not what I told you. I told you to stop taking her to the games. Let her get there some other way, but you are not her escort.

You have to decide which way you want to go with this. It's your life.

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!