New Couple, Same Old Story 2

[LiM]

Ralph,

So sorry that you are here and that you had to discover the PA earlier this month. I know how devastating that is.
But I'd also like to say that I think you are doing a FANTASTIC job. Strong work on rooting out your faults in the R. You know what you need to work on and those are things you need to fix whether you are married or not.
Continue DB'ing. It can work to save your M if that's what you want.
There is lots of good advice here. Pay attention anytime TxHubby or Sandi says something to you.

In your last thread, you asked about how you fix being emotional disconnected when you are LRT. To do that, you emotionally connect with other people. Your WW will notice. I started reaching out to other family, friends and worked on my relationship with my D's. I guarantee you that she noticed. She told me that she did. While the A was active, it wasn't enough to get her to change her wayward lifestyle. But once she started coming out of the fog, it helped her to see that I was not the person she made me out to be. I was not the evil person she turned me into so that she could justify the A in her mind.