I am content, that is a blessing.......

[mleigh4]

I am proud of everything I said to him yesterday, until my final and last comment to him that he needs help and if he isn't careful he is going to push S away or screw things up with him.

I wish I hadn't, I wish I could take it back, I really do. No one, especially him, wants to hear that and it wasn't my place to say it.

Well, I got the feedback I expected and may somewhat deserve for that comment. There was more about my parenting...but then he dived into some R talk....which may make this worth it.

He said I still don't recognize the reasons this has all happened and I don't know what he is going through so to stop diagnosing him. This did not happen because he wanted to live his life a certain way. It surprises him that I actually think I know what this is really about. To keep thinking what I want to protect myself, but it's not real. Some things are obvious and he has owned up to them, but for the most part I am completely off. He reminded me I was the one to move out first. He can think of many scenarios why I moved out, then demanded to come back, stay in the house, and keep the dog. Mostly that I demand to have S more often without consideration for anyone else. He has tried to get through this with as little conflict as possible for S. He has been more than understanding about S being with me more and keeping the dog. I twist things to make this all his fault. That I discount moving out first. Then when he moves out, I call it abandoning everyone. That I put aside anyone in my life who doesn't agree with me or see things my way. I take all the weight off myself and convince everyone this was the right thing to do and that I am better for it. Then I shouldn't complain and act like he forced me into this terrible life. He asked Should he apologize for me being in what I call a better life where I am happier? That I take any advice about my son personal when it's not about me, it's about what is best for S.

Whew!!! That's a lot at once. I had no idea that was in his head.

So, is this where I stay quiet? Do I respond with anything?