Aftermath

[TimR]

Thanks JujuB. Yeah I certainly did not set out consciously looking to date anyone and quite the opposite, I looked at how damaged I figured I would be in counseling for quite sometime to learn how to trust again. I guess that is how it happens, when you are not looking is when you find what you needed. She saw me jogging and asked if I would like a running partner sometime (I coach her son in school, not like she is a complete stranger). Through setting that up talking became more frequent. For a bit, I thought to myself uh oh, not sure that I am ready for this, but did not want to miss an opportunity.

We have discussed our individual issues. Her being divorced for 4 years now and having had some bad relationships after that, me having trust and intimacy issues. I find being aware of my issues lets me spot if I am having an issue before I start acting on it. We also discussed rebound relationships. Thus far we have been very open and honest with our thoughts and feelings which is a HUGE 180 for me.

As far as dating soon after the break up, I have discussed it with my IC. He has been supportive of it and just told me not to try and force or rush things. He encouraged me to spot and note any quirks I am having and tell him about them. So far so good.