whether to date is a bit debatable on these boards.
I do find that when your spouse cheats, dating someone seems to boost the ego, prevents pursuant and sometimes obsessive behaviors, and certainly does give the WS a clear message that LBS is not going to wait around. I don't know if it makes LBS more or less desirable.
if you can find eye ties threads he might be someone to catch up with. He overcame a lot and did really well with dating and GAL. His wife ended up wanting him back, but he did not see real change in her.
Personally, If I had any proof of my spouse cheating, I think i might have done the same. (Although when boyfriend cheated on me it took me over a year to date again) But I also would not want to reconcile if spouse was cheating. Non negotiable for me. The purpose of it would have been to get through some pretty rough feelings. But It's possible to get through them without OP too.
I recently expressed to a friend about a desire to date but I am also realizing how vulnerable I am right now, and how my selection process for a good person to date could be off. I think These past few days I am getting out of anger phase and in more of a mourning phase, so not as appealing.
I guess my overall thought is that it really is an individual decision and hopefully no additional parties end up hurt.
I think your doing great despite some pretty heart wrenching obstacles, especially regarding the children. I wish the best for you.
