No, he's giving himself until August 1 to decide if he is going to leave or stay. If he stays, then he'll open himself to rekindling the love. He's not thinking that is all my work--he knows he'll have to put some effort into it.

He described it as a door. Previously we were in our marriage and the door to the outside was locked. Now the door is unlocked and ajar. (Our physical separation earlier this year for practical, not marital, reasons did not make his heart grow fonder.) He thinks if he ever wants to leave, now is the time when he can do that with the least emotional pain to himself.

He is trying to decide if he wants to be unselfish and give up his dream of a passionate sex life with a woman who is as passionate as he is to stay with me and keep our kids' family intact.

He is torn between living his dream and sparing us pain.


Me: 44
H: 44
Kids: 20, 16, 16, and 10
Together/Married: 22 years
H announced he was emotionally detached and considering D: 4/4/16
H announced he is going to try to stay and reconnect: 5/1/16