What Jazzy said. She's having her cake and eating it, too. My W behaved in the same way - physical was bad because she was not only in love with the OM but also screwing him. As with mine, she wants you to be her buddy but nothing else. You must ask youself, are you willing to put up with her in love/sleeping with another person?
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
