Originally Posted By: DDJ
A person should always go with your gut... the calm one, not the twisted turning excuse for one.


I could not disagree with this more.

Change is hard.
Growth is hard.
Patience is hard.
Detaching is hard.
Letting go is hard.

They're all uncomfortable. It's impossible to be calm inside while going through this.

Giving in to the calm is giving yourself a false sense of being in control. Which is soothing...for now.

Setting the pace for getting divorced is EASY. But it isnt healing. It isnt growth. It isnt change.