Originally Posted By: Natus
I have a hard time letting go. Im trying but i feel i may not be DBing enough.

My wife is making plans with me, asking me out for movies. Yet she maintains (or is trying to) that she has no feelings for me.

We maintain a bit of contact during the day even though i try not to initiate it. Mostly revolving our son.

Its almost like we are a normal happy family minus the affection between husband and wife. Im wondering should i pull away, LRT, or maintain the happy family thing? GAl is not much of an option cause i had plenty of that, infact that seems to be the primary reason for our predicament.



I can really relate to the bolded.

In light of my most recent conversation with H, I am leaning toward some serious distancing, but I'm too new at this to offer any advice.


Me: 44
H: 44
Kids: 20, 16, 16, and 10
Together/Married: 22 years
H announced he was emotionally detached and considering D: 4/4/16
H announced he is going to try to stay and reconnect: 5/1/16