My understanding of the DB process and its affect on the WAS is that the LBS has no idea of the affect it is really having on WAS. It often does not prevent a rupture but lays the foundation for an eventual reconciliation, but until that is what WAS wants, it appears ineffective. The reverse is true for most LBS before bomb drop. They have no idea of the effect they are having on their M.
Anyway I am glad that going forward won't be complicated for you. I am glad you are still working on you.
Best wishes
R 25 years M 14 years S11 & S13 Working on it alone since Oct 2014 M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years) Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr. Next R chat Aug'17 Still together
