Rose, Cadet is right here. I pray it's not a MLC - in whatever form. He may just be in a different place after he thought of what he wants. Just continue the DR stuff, detach, 180, validate, and sadly - go as dark as you can given your current living sitch.
I totally understand a lot of what is presented is counter intuitive, and I fought it myself. Yes, it's tricky. It stinks.
Like I said - if you can swing it call a coach, even if it's a 1 time session. You could save yourself days by doing this - and time is precious right now. I'm so sorry - please keep posting.
Me: 58 Her: 59 Kids: 0 Dog: 1 ILYBINILWY: 9/15 D Bomb: 1/11/16 (found out filed) Verified OM: 1/11/16 Moved out: 1/11/16 (thought it was temporary)