K, for me it was when I honestly started enjoying my life in a really healthy way and had accumulated things I was willing to enjoy even when I did them by myself. When I found my sprinkles and he didn't want to do all the things I wanted to, I still enjoyed them even when I went out to do them without him.
When you have found your bliss without a fella, then you can check your cupcake for doneness.
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15