WW is now acting like she cannot take the kids for her one night a week if I don't give her $$. She is acting like such a brat and I really don't get her complete lack of desire to spend time with the kids. She had them Friday night and basically went out for two hours after work, picked the kids up from grandma's, took them to her apt and put them to bed so she could play her game. Then she wanted me to pick them up first thing in the AM, which I happily did and we had an AWESOME day. Stepping up my dad game 1000% to make up for her bs.
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Trying to not over due it, but at the same time it feels good to stand up for myself. Advice on how to walk this fine line?
Well fine then, keep them. And make sure you are properly documenting this. Document it every single day. Use a handwritten notebook or an online journal with accurate date stamps. If you keep this up for 6+ months, then you can write your own custody/child support agreement in crayon and a judge will sign it.
Unless your WW has a bigger, faster turnaround than I have EVER seen, then you know where this is going. And I can pretty much promise you one thing - starting in a year or two until your kids are grown and married, you will want nothing more than your ex to butt-out of your life. You are basically in a position now to make that happen.
I know this situation is terrible for you and your kids right now, but in the long run, for you, this is a gift. So when things seem bad, remember to think and be thankful you arent dealing with one of the crazy manic cheaters I have dealt with in other cases. You are not fighting to stay out of jail or debt, you arent fighting for unsupervised visitation, you arent having to drop off your kids every Wed night to the OM in your home, and you more than likely arent facing a future where you are the legally defined secondary parent to a crazy person. You are having awesome time with your kids, right? Sounds pretty awesome to me
